Smaller Talks = Smaller Brains
Hi! You probably know me if you are reading this. It is very likely that you think of me as a silent, observant, and introvert guy that does not talk much and it would be not a surprise to you if I just waved my hand and then disappeared. At the most, a sentence or two would be more than enough and I would vanish. However, a fewer of you do know that I have a tendency to interact very actively. Sometimes, I would talk about the smallest of things in the minutest of detail and it would go on for a long time. Of course, you would now think that why I don’t I do that with everyone I know? Apart from obvious introvertish reasons of not socializing with everyone and taking time to open up, I feel that most of us confine ourselves to really small talks. Small talks can narrow our perspective and cage us to an ignorant conditioning of tagging things that might be simply “fine”, “good”, “cool”, or any other simple adjective.
Take a very simple example. I often post the pictures that I click on Instagram and put it as Whatsapp stories. Apart from the regular likes and reactions, sometimes I receive comments like “amazing”, “Wow”, “mind-blowing”, etc. Of course, these are appreciated by me but as a matter of fact, I would not have posted these if they were not good in the first place. A more appealing and appropriate response would be to describe why did you like the picture and what made you say “wow” about the same. Why would not you share the reason and elaborate the feeling that you have? What made you feel like that and what is your perception about the same? How am I ever going to know if the wow on my picture and the wow for Hrithik Roshan’s dance aren’t the same?
For the above image of my own, I would critically view it in this manner-
The walls are adding a visual leading line that is adding to the charm of the picture. The opposite directions of the kid and the mother are dramatic. However, the hand is blurred and the motion could have better sharpness. The wires in the background could be avoided. The spots on the pipe could be edited and the picture would have been smoother. Overall, the picture creates a sense of motion that makes the image wonderful and the walking directions of the kid and the mother add a dramatic element that say a story in itself.
Of course, I don’t expect everyone to be this elaborate and critical in their approach but it would be so very enlightening if I could know why you think that the image appealed to you and what made you touch that like button. A simple statement like the kid’s cuteness made me go aww can add much more depth to the rather shallow and ambiguous wow. I hope this does make sense to you. You can openly tell me your views about anything I put on social media and I do, I do not mind the most critical and evaluative ones provided that you can substantiate that. Additionally, I would not express my opinions on your work or your expression because am unsure as to how you would perceive it. If you would like me to do so, inform me and I would be more than happy to do so.
This very example is just a little glimpse of how our lives are caged in the simpler words and adjectives that are used as statements rather than descriptive and supporting words to the expression. Short talks often feel formal and done for the sake of doing it. “How are you? Good/Bad (why?) or What’s up? Nothing much.(what about the remaining few things?) ” This does not make sense to me. These seem like the worst things a person can imagine starting a conversation and it signifies stupidity or laziness to think beyond these. “What else?” is another stupid addition to the same. I would rather have a long talk with you in an year rather than a short talk every month. Don’t feel bad if I do so. Expressing something is our fundamental right and we live in a democracy (at least on paper). Let us express ourselves better. A like on Facebook or Instagram does not have any relevance or value unless you can express your views freely about the same. Let us think better and teach ourselves to escape from the cage of short talks.
I guess that is all I have to say. Try implementing the same and don’t give feedback of this to me if it’s only adjectives and evaluative terms with no substantiation. The blog is not for any commercial purpose anyway and your view or visit would not matter as much as your elaborate, descriptive and detailed opinion would. Hoping for you to break free the fetters of small talk and express yourself better without any hesitation or second thought.
Until the next time you read my blog, keep smiling, and take care. 🙂
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